Beyond Scary: Your Bucket List Lessons from Adrenaline Junkies and Toddlers

Bungee jumping babies

When I saw it, we were out skiing, having a great time, knocking another item off the bucket list, skiing in a resort we hadn’t been to before. Then we reached the next chair lift.

Skiers on a chair lift
Going down a scary chair lift

It was flimsy looking, old, but that wasn’t what made it so terrifying.

It appeared to dive over a dizzily terrifying drop to nowhere.

I shuffled towards it, feeling more and more insecure. I told myself that I, like hundreds of other people that day, could just get on it.

 

 

As the people in front disappeared into the void, I flunked out, sick with fright, like a horse refusing a jump.

I froze up with fear. Is this what bucket lists are all about?

Bucket lists these days seem to be for people who want to die sooner

It all started with a great film about two old guys who thought that they were about to kick the bucket.

They vowed to have all the experiences they’d miss out on during their lives and so off they went to have hilarious adventures in fabulous places before it was all too late for them — and they succeeded.

But from all that I’ve been reading, bucket lists these days have to be higher, faster, crazier, more dangerous, more death defying — scary!

The adrenaline junkies want to go bungee jumping, sky diving, volcano surfing, swimming with sharks and more.

Why?

A little bit of scary can turn you into the person you want to be

We were talking about scary things one night and my friend Annie told us how scared she had been going sky diving.

Boy, did she make it sound awful!

The fear, the inability to move, to take that desperate step out of the plane. Shudder and horror!

I asked her if after that first awful time, she’d done it again and she said she had.

Scary extreme sports

 

 

How many times?

64 TIMES!

 

 

 

How could she if it was so awful?

Annie said she’d learned to overcome fear itself. She experienced the highs of accomplishment.

She became a skydiver.

Overcoming fear itself changes your life

When you overcome your fear, it changes the way you think.

It shows us our limitations, that we are fragile and that life can be short. But it shows us what we can do.

Annie said that it not only gave her a sense of identity, it changed her life.

By overcoming fears in one field, it gave her the strength to make more life changes — she moved to Brussels by herself and started a new life.

It isn’t all about frightening yourself silly

I don’t think I could ever jump out of a plane, but I have overcome my fear of heights sufficiently to be able to go skiing — well mostly.

I don’t have to go down that really, really scary chair lift.

I can go up another one that’s not so scary. And maybe I can work up to the scary one.

We can all achieve those highs from pushing ourselves a little bit further. We can do it in our daily lives.

Babies learn to walk
Babies turn into toddlers

 

Like toddlers learning to walk, we can take the risk and push ourselves just a little bit more each day and in the end we’re walking!

We can exercise a little bit longer. We can be proud of ourselves for eating the right things, trying something new or going down a scary chair lift.

We can experiment by doing things a little bit differently. We can take up new hobbies, go to new places.

We might fall down and get it wrong from time to time.

 

But practising taking small risks gives us the ability and resilience to do more, to pick ourselves us when we fall down, to take the steps to get us where we want to be, to run into our new identity, to be that courageous person we think we are.

Then we’ll gain that glow of happiness we all get when we’ve achieved something.

That amazing feeling of “I did it”!

The most incredible feeling in the world

It was Carl Lewis, the 9 time Olympic track and field gold medallist who said that the joy that comes from ‘going beyond’ is the most incredible feeling in the world.

It was Olivier Bernhard, world champion and ironman winner who said that the finish is not about winning but about reaching your full potential, making progress and becoming a better person on the journey.

Each of us can achieve that incredible feeling, even if it’s not running faster than anyone else in the world or jumping out of an airplane.

We can be like toddlers, falling over but getting up and taking another step forward.

We can write our own bucket list of things we want to do, then start doing the smaller items and move on up to even greater heights to realising our own potential.

We’ll still get that incredible feeling and it will push us towards reaching our full potential.

Your very own bucket list to take you beyond

So here’s how your bucket list will help you reach that incredible feeling of going beyond.

You’ve written your bucket list including all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and you’ve been brave enough to include a few things that are just a teeny bit scary.

You’re working your way down your bucket list, slowly maybe, but steadily, doing lots of things that aren’t scary at all and a few of those slightly scary things.

You’re feeling braver, more resilient.

On top of the world

 

You’re on top of the world.

So, you start adding more scary things to your bucket list.

You realise that you’re changing. You’re becoming that person you wanted to be.

 

 

You’re experiencing that incredible, life affirming high and you realise that right at that moment, you are really deeply happy — you’ve gone beyond your bucket list.

Rosemary Bointon
Rosemary Bointon

 

Having adventured through more than 50 countries, Rosemary’s passion is thinking up new adventures and challenges for older people to do NOW, to help them have loads of fun in longer, more fun-filled and active lives.

This article first appeared on Medium.

 

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